Tag Archives: sobriety

So What Does a Recovering Addict Look Like Anyway?

20 Jun

A good friend of mine asked me to do  Q&A for a new London-based magazine that is aimed that the recovery community and kind of begs the question, well “How normal are we now?” after a bit of recovery time. It’s called Normal for that very reason, I think.

When we lived lives of addiction, we did so many abnormal things that we just passed over as “one of those things”, because the addiction ruled us. In early sobriety, it is terribly easy to feel wrong and out of place, to be up and down with your emotions and to still practice many addictions, whether to food or love or Thierry Henry (sorry, just me that one).

But after several years clean and having trodden our own path of recovery, we feel a bit less like we stand out as the guy or gal ordering a diet cola at the bar. We are not necessarily as reactive or up-and-down as in those early days. We’re not as hung up over the addiction and are able to, never be complacent, but weave back into a fun and fulfilling life.

And what we find is that none of us are quite normal. My friend, Ali, who sub-edits the magazine certainly isn’t. She’s a Rawk Chick at heart, lives on a barge on the Thames and is an ardent fan of West Ham. Abnormal. Definitely.

But I’m not normal either. I’d describe myself as a Buddhist with a cracked sense of humour, a cat who I have named “Carwash”, and an indescribable urge to help people. What the freak is normal about that??humour, a cat who I have named “Carwash”, and an indescribable urge to help people. What the freak is normal about that?

Anyway, for all you US recovery peeps, I send you my love. You can read the full interview below. Thanks to Ali, and all the normalish people who decided a mag for recovery peeps was just what we needed. (And I happen to agree) .normalish people who decided a mag for recovery peeps was just what we needed. (And I happen to agree) .

ZOOOOOOMMMM INNNNN!!!!!

Q and A with Normal

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A Little Recovery Wisdom

25 Jul

Wise people choose doing what they need to, over doing what they want to

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How To Make New Sober Friends

24 Jul

I’m writing this post in honour of a gorgeous new sober friend of mine. There are lovely sober folk all over the world – and my latest companion came all the way from the US to find me. He’s called a Sobear and he’s a great gift for the sober person in your life.

Me and my Sobear reading The Happy Addict together!

Me and my Sobear reading The Happy Addict together!

If you’d like a Sobear yourself, or would like to get one as a present to mark a recovery birthday, or just to help someone celebrate the sober lifestyle, you can order one here. A proportion of proceeds from the bears will be donated to help people find, and keep, recovery. Your gift will help fund alcohol and drug recovery programs and substance misuse research.

So, what if you don’t have a gorgeous bear like this and want to make some new sober friends?

Here are my top 5 places to meet people who may be more interested in enjoying themselves without drinking.

1. Fellowships: Obviously Fellowship groups can put you in touch with many sober people. Whether or not you choose to follow the whole program or not, you can always find supportive, sober people at AA, NA and the like.

2. Spiritual groups: Many spiritual groups are so focused on personal and emotional development that drinking doesn’t really come into it. You can usually find lovely people there who may actually be on a similar path to you.

3. Sports clubs: If people really take their sport seriously, they may have a fitness regime that doesn’t involve drinking. Look for sports that require discipline and a healthy body, such as Martial Arts, athletics, and swimming.

4. Coffee shops: Lots of people who don’t drink prefer to visit coffee houses with their friends than go to the bar. Find your local coffee hotspot and hang out there.

5. Volunteer centres: Volunteering is a great way to spend your time, and you usually meet lots of lovely people as well. Most volunteering will require that people don’t drink on placement, especially if you’re on the frontline helping other people. Volunteering is quite common in people in the process of rebuilding their lives in some way, so don’t be surprised if there are other people in recovery there too.

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How to Deal With Friends Who Encourage You to Drink

17 Dec

How to Deal With Friends Who Want You to Drink – YouTube.

Take a look at my recovery books here: http://www.bethburgess.co.uk/index.php/books

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Advice on Relationships in Recovery

7 Dec

If you’re in recovery from addiction, what do you really need to know about starting a new relationship? Find out from Recovery Coach Beth Burgess Take a peek at my book, The Happy Addict, or go to my recovery coaching website

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The Addiction Show Interview with Beth Burgess

31 Mar

What is the Difference between Sobriety and Recovery?

30 Nov