Tag Archives: addiction help

How To Deal With Unexpected Addictive Urges

30 Mar

I had got to a point in my sobriety where I knew I was never going to drink again. I had no thoughts about drinking, no urges, no cravings and no temptations. My old triggers and reasons to drink had been completely extinguished. I loved my sober life.Unexpected_craving

And then suddenly *pop* – a craving!

Not even a fleeting thought, but a real strong urge to buy a bottle and down it in one. I was completely blindsided. Where had this come from? I had been sober for a number of years and not experienced a craving for ages.

So, I developed a tool to deal with it – working out where it had come from and what I could do about it. I share my special tools in a brand new video.

So if you have been sober, for however long, and suddenly get a craving that you don’t understand, don’t feel bad about it. Watch this video, so you can get to the root of the unexpected urge and avoid relapse.

Who Are Your Recovery Heroes?

15 Dec

Recovery heroes are people who are vital for various reasons: hope that one day we may also be addiction-free and happy is the greatest reason of all. But there are other reasons why recovery heroes are so important.

Although we have to find our individual path to recovery, there is no need to totally reinvent the wheel. We can follow in the footsteps of people who have been there before, we can learn from their mistakes, see how they have faced challenges and still remained sober and happy. We can use them in times of trouble. We can ask ourselves “What would my recovery hero do or say about this situation?”

There are many people in recovery from addiction who I look up to, admire and respect, but here are some of the 5 people who deserve to be named as recovery heroes for me personally, and why I love them so much:

Noah Levine

Me and Noah Levine

Me and Noah Levine

There is no-one I respect so much as someone who completely turns their life around – it’s a big task to go from angry trouble-making criminal to sober serene author, speaker and someone trying to reach out to young people who need help.

Noah Levine’s talks, podcasts, books and videos made me see that spirituality in recovery is not something to be sneered at or afraid of – it’s a way of making your recovery, and your whole life, much better. He’s a really accessible guide for people who don’t necessarily think of themselves as ‘the spiritual sort’.

 

Wynford Ellis Owen

Wynford's book

Wynford’s book

Wynford was an alcoholic who had the same severity of problem as I did. Once sober, he wrote a book which validated so much for me about the problems I was experiencing. He really was a keystone in me reaching out for help, just by reading his book.

In person, he’s a wonderfully warm soul who holds positions at several recovery projects and steering groups. I feel I could ask him anything, literally anything, and he would reply with honesty, compassion and wisdom. In fact, I have often asked him several things about addiction and recovery – he never fails me.

 

Kuladitya

Many of my recovery heroes are not particularly famous. Kuladitya was an alcohol counsellor I had many years ago, who used a person-centred approach (a la Carl Rogers) and understood addiction in a way that most counsellors I saw at the time didn’t.

He worked with me as an individual, not just as an addict (thanks for the lend of the Bukowski book). He was the first person in recovery I met who I emulated. I wanted his peace, his individuality, his recovery.

 

Kristen Johnston

KJ rocking recovery

KJ rocking recovery

I have never met Kristen, though we’ve had a few Twitter chats. I love how open she is about her recovery and  how she shows the world that recovery doesn’t have to be dull and boring. You’re allowed to keep your cheeky sense of humour when you’re sober and you’re allowed to be who you are.

In fact, recovery gives you the ability to be who you really are without wearing a mask of intoxication. Kudos to Kristen, who shows how much recovery rocks, and is willing to devote a lot of her time to helping others who are struggling with addiction. Kristen’s got guts. And some.

 

Greg Williams

I have to give a shout-out to the director of The Anonymous People. I’ve never met him in person, but he has pushed the agenda of recovery forward massively. His film with Bill White, who also deserves special mention, made people realise that addiction is not a shameful thing – it’s a disorder. Recovery is possible and we should be loud and proud about it.

Thanks, Greg, for contributing a really important work to the world of recovery. And he deserves even more praise for rocking the recovery world at a relatively young age.

Who are your recovery heroes? And why?

What Are The Best Addiction Recovery Books?

20 Aug

Although 1:1 work and support are the ideal ways to beat addiction, books on addiction recovery have their place, too. If you are confused about where to start with recovery, need some identification, or just need a few helpful reminders about how to make your recovery even stronger, addiction books can fulfil that need.

One of my books,The Recovery Formula: An Addict’s Guide to getting Clean and Sober Forever has just been awarded five stars out of five by Reader’s Favorite, so other people obviously agree that books on addiction recovery can be very valuable.

I know that on my own journey, one particular book sparked so much hope, identification, and some real practical lessons on how to start recovering, that I really credit it for motivating me to make the decision to reach out for help when I was really struggling to stay sober on my own. That book was No Room to Live: A Journey from Addiction to Recovery by My favourite addiction recovery bookWynford Ellis Owen, which I know hardly anyone has heard of.

But that book personally inspired me so much that I actually typed out an email to thank the author for writing it when I was in the middle of alcohol withdrawal (Yes, my keyboard was covered in sweat and and the email had many typos!). And when I had recovered and decided to write my first book, The Recovery Formula, I sent my book to him to see what he thought. Luckily, he loved it, and even gave me a review for the back cover.

This shows just how powerful connecting with others’ experiences and wisdom can be in recovery, and the place of books in enabling us to give and gain hope, motivation, and sometimes even help save someone’s life.

I also love that there are books which are really specific to certain addictions. For example, if you suffer from a gambling addiction, Addicted to Dimes (Confessions of a Liar and a Cheat) could offer you a lot of identification and motivation, while In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction is a great read for those with less ‘classic addictions’ who find themselves identifying with addicts nonetheless.

What are your top books on addiction recovery, and why?

How To Beat Addiction Cravings Quickly

2 Oct

I’ve just written a new blog post over on my other site which I think you’ll like.

It has a step-by-step process for beating addiction cravings, plus a video with a really powerful little tool for getting rid of pesky cravings.

The blog post focuses on alcohol cravings, but you can use these tricks and tips to beat cravings related to any addiction.

How To Get Rid of Alcohol Cravings.

Why not take a look at the post above and then share your favourite tips for beating addiction cravings in the comments below.

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“How to kick Depression, Addiction and Anxiety” – NEW Radio Interview

28 Sep

Hi all,

Please do listen to my latest interview with fellow addiction worker Micheal Hilton and I on the following link. It really is chocka-block full with amazing information and insight.

https://player.cinchcast.com/?assettype=single&show_id=6955049&version=2.0&version=2.0&platformId=1

Enjoy! And drop me a line at http://www.smyls.co.uk if you think I might be able to help you.

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Have You Entered The Addiction Zone?

24 Mar

I was delighted to be interviewed recently by author and coach Tom Evans. We talked about what it means to enter the addiction zone – and more importantly, how to get out of it!

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How to Avoid Relapse – The 4 Stages of Addiction Recovery

25 Jan

What are the stages of addiction recovery and how can you work on yourself to avoid relapse and stay sober?

The Stages of Addiction Recovery – YouTube.

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